Saturday, December 28, 2013
Things I Learned from my Brother
I'm not talking about my little brother, Jimmy. Although I have a feeling one day he'll teach me something cool. Like skateboarding, probably. Actually maybe something safer since when he tried to teach Steve how- Steve broke his arm and his arm hasn't been right ever since. I think all he did was stand on the skateboard and attempt to move forward. What a clutz, amiright?? I'm talking about my older brother, Kent. I've always looked up to my big bro, but, I've never attempted to put into words why. Here's a story: I was really, REALLY young. Like a tiny little thing, maybe 5 or 6 years old. It's one of those memories that sticks out because I did learn something and have referred back to it a lot in my life. He was a couple years older than me, so he was 7 or 8, I think. He told my mom he was being made fun of in school because his ears stuck out. But he didn't really care. That's the first point of interest. I think if I was being made fun of by my classmates I would have been inconsolable. It would have wounded me deeply and permanently. I would have thought of that body part as a terrible physical defect and I would have loathed it for the rest of my life. So I found his reaction curious and actually still can't quite put my finger on why a person might not be too troubled by something like that and I wanted/want very much to be like that too. I'm guessing my parents talked it over and my mom told him she could take him to have his ears pinned back. He declined the offer. Later, I asked him why he didn't just do it. He said that if a person can't deal with and accept an issue as trivial as ears, how would they ever be able to deal with the important things that happened in life? That was really wise I think! Everybody has insecurities to some extent. I have this issue with perfectionism so I think I look at things differently sometimes and take things to the extreme. But what I learned is that sometimes the things you get caught up worrying about are simply not the important things in life. Superficial things like that are not important. Love yourself. That is what I learned. I think sometimes younger siblings look up to their older siblings and I certainly look up to mine. I think in my brother's case, the admiration is unquestionably warranted.